If you caught my post a few weeks ago, you know that we recently found out that I’m infertile. I didn’t go into the details of my diagnosis then, so I thought I’d fill y’all in on some specifics.
I have what’s called Premature Ovarian Failure (POF). A woman has POF if her ovaries stop working before age 40, and about 1% of American women are diagnosed with it.
It’s very unusual for someone as young as I am (23) to develop this condition. There is no stopping the process, and there is no cure. There are no eggs left in my ovaries, and that’s not going to change.
The side-effects of this condition are the same as menopause, so basically right now (and for the past year) that’s what my body is going through. I am taking some hormone pills to help with those side effects (goodbye, hot flashes!) but they won’t reverse the disease.
POF can be brought on by a genetic defect, as a result of radiation or chemotherapy, or it can be caused by an autoimmune disorder. For me, it’s that last one. My body attacked my ovaries because of a genetic autoimmune disorder. That means that even if my POF had been caught years ago, there’s nothing they could have done. This was the inevitable result.
I think I’m almost glad that there’s no cure. If there were, I would be going through a roller coaster of treatments, getting my hopes up again for a cure that could never come.
This way, it’s definitive. I have what I have and there’s nothing I can do about it. God-willing, the Lord will give us children through another route, that’s a roller coaster of it’s own: Adoption!
We’ve started the initial paperwork for our adoption, so pray for patience & that it will all go through so we can move on to the next step soon.
Is donor eggs an option?
We don’t believe that using donor eggs is ethical, but I expanded a lot more on that in my post ‘Why We Won’t Do In Vitro’
So encouraged by your faith in the Lord and your heart for adoption. I have no doubt of God’s faithfulness towards you and Steve in the days ahead! Looking forward to traveling this faith journey with you guys and the privilege /blessing of praying for you. Much love to you both.
Bev, you’re such an encouragement to us – thank you for your prayers!